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About to get a little more personal…
February 12, 2010
For as long as I can remember, this blog has been dedicated to mainly beauty, fashion and make up. I’ve recevied so many comments from readers and emails, asking “why don’t you talk more about yourself? what do you do outside of this blog?” and to be very honest, for some time now, I’ve found myself as someone… who is very hard to approach and get close to. Don’t get me wrong, I love socialising, I’m just picky. I know it’s hard to understand, but… afterall, girls are complicated.
In real life, I’m very closed up and very unapproachable and unless I’ve seen you around for a while, understand what kind of person you are, I will not come up to you and basically have a proper conversation with you. There have been a few people in the past year whom I’ve actually become very close to, yet had chosen to ignore for a first few months I met them. I guess I’m just picky with friends – very picky. And I do realise, and know it sounds a little (okay maybe a little bit more) bitchy, but that’s what happens when you fall in and out of love too many times. You lose trust.
And when I say that, I don’t even mean in just a boy-girl relationship, I mean it in friendship, family, pets and any other relationship we have between living things around us.
I spoke to a girl at work yesterday – properly – and for the first time in about 3 month. I finally decided I’ll go talk to her and see what she’s really like and I realised I was able to get along with her. She was friendly and not at all the way I expected her to be!!!
In a way, she was very similar to me in such a way that we’re both very judgmental. We judge a book by its cover, judge a person by our first impression – which is essential the first two minutes of meeting someone – though I think I must admit, most of the time, I’m wrong about people and my first impressions are always far from who they really are!
I think though, even though I’m really picky with choosing who my friends are IRL, I’m still really willing to meet new people and really willing to find out what other people are like! I love socialising, I just hate getting too close…..
Who understands me? ;)
I do, I think.
I have a really hard time with other people for the most part. Like the other kids in my Japanese class, I’m not very fond of any of them. I don’t think they’re bad people and I don’t hate them, it’s just that first impression wasn’t a very good one. I keep to myself a lot, and I only have one real friend, who is also my boyfriend. I’m very picky about the people I’m around, and how far I go in conversation with the people I know and what I tell others (even if it’s family). I like to keep to myself for the most part. I’d like to have more friends, but I have a hard time finding people I like+ it’s hard to get together with the people I do like because everyone’s so busy (plus I don’t really know how to talk to people sometimes). But I don’t mean to paint myself as a victim or anything. But yeah, socializing is cool. It’s just complicated sometimes.
So, I feel like I understand you. It’s a hard thing to explain, and it’s sort of nice to know that I’m not the only one who acts that way about people. :)
Is not hard to understand you because I’m, basicly as you. I don’t get close just with everyone as easy some people do or talk with them much and for this reason most people think i’m closed person, which is not exactly like that. I just don’t allow everyone to get personal with me (and sometimes i wish i was not like that but is just the way i am). I just prefer to be close with people on who i can really trust than just to pretend i’m close with everyone and to talk about personal things with them because I know a lot of people who would look that are very close, hang out together and etc. but the truth is that they are hypocrites and in the next moment they would talk bad behind their back or would call them only when they need help or something. And i can say i have become may times disappointed from people who i have though for friends, so i think that my character is like this because of this as you said about yourself.
i’m super duper picky with people i socialize with too! it’s made it hard for me to make friends in college and now i have 6-8 months left and hardly have any friends up here. sucks because my field is very people related.. i have to get along with people and talk to people and put up with people. oh well, at least i’m not in customer service or something horrendous like that xD hahaa. and it’s good to be picky with people.. you don’t want the wrong people in your life, because the wrong people can totally CHANGE your life.. EFF it up if you know what i mean!
I totally understand this. I find it really hard to get close with anyone I haven’t known for yeas and trust enough to talk about things that really matter in my life. Everyone says I’m friendly and easy to get along with at first until they realize at some point that things seem to be on ‘surface’ level and that I don’t like to talk O_O
But I’ve learned that that this is not a bad thing at all since I don’t want to have many fairweather friends who are just out to compare their lives with mine. I like meeting new people and getting to know them but close up really quickly when I find a little something of them that reminds me of a bad experience I might have had in the past. Some may say that is being too picky and judgmental of strangers but it’s just a part of me that has always been this way. Besides, I don’t like doing trial and error anything. “Prevention is better than cure” is how I roll XD
i understand you!!
when i make friends with a lot of people right away i usually learn months and months after that they are psychos, backstabbers, shit talkers…
and it’s like, i have already been friends with them for a year so…
you can’t change your mind after that point!
i just learned that people hate you for no reason because they’re jealous -__-
that’s why i have become picky with friends at least xD
im so glad everyone here left me such deep and meaningful messages. i feel so happy that im not alone! :)
i really wish you guys were here in sydney with me, then we could all make true friends, rather than with those we don’t want to be true friends with.
I am really closed up like you as well. I have been in Melbourne for 6 years and every weekend, I still cannot find someone who I can just ring up to go shopping with. Usually I just go by myself.
I am not sure why…but I have always thought that having no friends is better than having a bunch of friends I don’t get along particularly well with. It drains my energy if I have to be ‘on’ all the time around acquaintances. Every now and then is fine but everyday is not.
i understand what all of you mean. you try enough times to know that you hardly get to meet someone WORTH meeting. they’re either too immature, or have no common interests with you.
but the thing is, over time ive come to realised that im being way too judgemental and every person is a story. we’re like onions (if youve seen shrek you’ll know what i mean) and we’ve got layers. what you see on the outside isnt what they are on the inside. and you kinda have to make the effort to really know what someone is truly like. thats how i met my best friend and to be honest i wasnt really her biggest fan when i first met her.
please dont give up. nice, genuine people are out there. =)
Oh wow. I sort of thought you were a girl with lots of friends, you know, always seeking new pals or something! But it’s refreshing to hear how you approach friendships. Probably because it relates closely to my experiences. With getting burned by “bad relationships” in a way. I’m the same. I’m not “fake” with new people I meet I’m just not very “open” to them too, about my deeper self. So i don’t forge many meaningful friendships these days~ Not many un-meaningful ones either though (LOL)
Hey girl, greetings from Michigan. I am awaiting for my acceptance letter if I am able to study abroad in UNSW in a couple months. I’d be leaving in June for AU if i make it! I was wondering where is that dimsum place is at, because I love dimsum, and I need to like, scope out all the dimsum places in sydney. Also, may I ask what color your hair is? And how you got it? I am looking for that shade but a little more deeper red. Thanks yo <3
hope you get into UNSW!
i’m not too sure which dimsim place you’re speaking of? as i have not mentioned any dimsim places on my blog? i’d love to help =X
my hair is home dyed. i recently dyed it down to a level 5. thanks!